tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post113822508725933760..comments2023-11-05T03:52:09.095-07:00Comments on The Fobcave: Daddy Fob vs. S-Boogie's Self ImageB.G. Christensenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01604354633985676126noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post-1138659230864604722006-01-30T15:13:00.000-07:002006-01-30T15:13:00.000-07:00An interesting book by a local Provoian called "Co...An interesting book by a local Provoian called "Confronting the myth of self esteem" (the book, not the Provoian), posits that telling each other we're wonderful creates wonderfulness as a criterion for being loved. Rather, it suggests that we simply tell people we love them unconditionally, regardless of whether or not they're being particularly wonderful. (I don't fully buy the book's argument, but I do think the idea is at least partially worth following)Lunkwillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08543336341601290962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post-1138377276409089302006-01-27T08:54:00.000-07:002006-01-27T08:54:00.000-07:00I'm going to step outside all of my cyncial defens...I'm going to step outside all of my cyncial defense mechanisms to suggest that you're a <I>fobulous</I> father, because you love S-Boogie, and she can tell.<BR/><BR/>But bad job with Tolkers. I've kept wondering why he's so messed up.Melyngochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07894183958877193588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post-1138284286975749752006-01-26T07:04:00.000-07:002006-01-26T07:04:00.000-07:00I might add somthing similar, as for her being sma...I might add somthing similar, as for her being smart: as she learns from you that she IS, indeed, smart, she'll also learn from you that she's smart enough to know that getting all "A's" isn't that important; smart enough to know that there's other kinds of 'smart' besides being academically smart.<BR/><BR/>Don't worry; you're doing a good job.TKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09649729044618999452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post-1138264379804846592006-01-26T01:32:00.000-07:002006-01-26T01:32:00.000-07:00I think maybe you've missed something here and tha...I think maybe you've missed something here and that's causing you to worry. <BR/><BR/>Think about WHY you think she's cute/pretty/beautiful. (She is!) But it's not all just her looks. It's her personality, too. It's the total of who she is that makes her so cute/pretty/beautiful. And through the years she'll pick that up from you - that when you look at her, you're seeing the total person. (And if she doesn't, I'm sure you'll have the opportunity to set her straight.) <BR/><BR/>So I wouldn't worry, because when you think about it, that IS the basis of the problem - the commercialization of just ONE aspect of a woman's beauty - ignoring that she's a WHOLE PERSON.TKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09649729044618999452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post-1138259165901639102006-01-26T00:06:00.000-07:002006-01-26T00:06:00.000-07:00It doesn't really matter what you do, your childre...It doesn't really matter what you do, your children will blame you for their negative traits and not give you the credit for the good ones for many many years. <BR/><BR/>(LIE: it DOES matter what you do, and you're doing many wonderful things from my observations.) <BR/><BR/>But really, your parenting can only be truly evaluated when your child becomes a parent and you watch them and see your good things reflected in what they do with their kids. It's hard to be a parent, because after all, you are still a growing and changing person yourself.Earth Sign Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03935899610898903903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post-1138238939259441242006-01-25T18:28:00.000-07:002006-01-25T18:28:00.000-07:00.There's a difference?And hey--what's wrong with p....<BR/><BR/>There's a difference?<BR/><BR/>And hey--what's wrong with putty?Th.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16460795570237872290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14843205.post-1138237196768615492006-01-25T17:59:00.000-07:002006-01-25T17:59:00.000-07:00Yeah, you should be more careful. You've already r...Yeah, you should be more careful. You've already ruined my self-esteem.<BR/><BR/>Or maybe that was the media. I keep getting the two of you mixed up.Tolkien Boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03816447362432499481noreply@blogger.com